I don't want a slave... I want a woman that 'gets it'
and there are plenty of them out there that do... and plenty that don't.
The Man wears the pants in the relationship... and ultimately he makes the final decisions.
That is not the case in 2017. Women bark orders at their men as if they are the slave. That's not how it's suppose to be.
Man = provider
Woman = caretaker
and because our society has drifted away from this model... is the reason why we, as men, have to ask for special permission in every decision we make.
No one should "wear the pants" in a relationship...BOTH parties should have equal say. If you go into every relationship thinking "I'm in charge because I am the male" then it is doomed to fail.
Today, the male or the female could "bring home the bacon". OR, more than likely, BOTH will be trying to make money. Men with house wives are making six figures.
Relationships are hard, BOTH people need to be happy. If one isn't happy, it breaks. The woman AND the man need to feel like they have say. Fights happen, no matter what, but you can learn to fight in healthy ways. Not just yelling at each other. That's something I'm working on, it's hard.
The problem with relationships today is that they are a lot of work, and no one wants to do the work. Everyone feels entitled, everyone wants to be "in charge" like Dooms here. No one wants to have to abide by someone else's way of life.
For a relationship to work BOTH people have to do things they don't want to do. Get up earlier than you might like, eat at restaurants you aren't crazy about, watch a chick flick every now and then, hang out with her family even though you hate it, etc etc.
When one person isn't giving and the other is, it's only a matter of time until they say "fck this I'm out of here"
And you know, some people are happier single...if you don't want to put in that kind of work maybe you're happier just doing the bachelor thing. Nothing wrong with that.
I know people who make a lot more than me, but can never afford to go out and do anything because they pay $600 a month for their car payment or pay student loans or have kids which cost a fortune.
I mean I don't do their taxes, but I know it's something they can definitely afford. He got a better computer over time (he's finishing school for programming), so that covers that cost. It just couldn't be for PS4 so he could hang with the boys. Even he was trying to rationalize whatever convo they had with he had a habit of playing too much video games when he was in high school (it's been many years since that's over and done with). I pretty much play BF1 for 1-1.5hrs every 3 days or so and then hit the gym with one of my friends, and this is just a way for guys inc him whose 3.5hrs away to 'hang out'.
It's got to do with several things. My buddy's life was kind of a shitshow before she showed up tbh, and she helped him get his ish together big time. But I feel like maybe because of that, he just kinda agrees and is content with her making most decisions. It's just annoying because that doesn't look like equality to me in terms of a relationship, which is what I think it should kinda be.