Saw my former girl around town, asked her whats new in her life and she told me she's getting married. Nice looking ring, its a guy I knew but went to a different high school then I, looks happy.
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It was a terrible break up. Things were thrown, curses yelled, dragged on for months and months (quite a bit of which made it on to ISH cause she started "checking up on me" and such).
Anyways, that was months ago, she told me two weeks ago. I got a formal invite in the mail today. Im more then a bit shocked cause... well duh... but there was a hand written letter asking me if I would come from her. Seemed sincere.
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I'm right for deciding not to go, right?
reading this, may have been a good thing you are out of that relationship. imagine her forcing you to propose to her?
but yeah, this is a definite rubbing in the face move by her. it's your move my man. either
- go to the wedding and turn the other cheek
- go to the wedding, drink all the booze you want, and then start drunk ranting how bad she is at sex
- don't go, and leave the drama behind
I've experienced this and Fallguy's story. It's rough, obviously.
My ex was engaged seven months after our breakup and married 10 months after. I think it might last because she's a serious Christian and so was he, and Christians don't like to get divorced, right? Anyway, we talked on the phone frequently all the way up to the day she told me she was getting married - which came out of left field. That was the last time I ever talked to her. No invitation. Had there been one, I would not have attended.
As others have said, I'd respectfully decline in this case as well. I think that'd be the right thing to do.
I like Zombles and Senor Cedric's suggestions though.
my ex of about forever had a bf like a few weeks after we split. she said we should still be friends and i said "WHY?" and she got super pissed and remains pissed to this day. (I'm not....) Me, i don't go. Drama is for women.
my ex of about forever had a bf like a few weeks after we split. she said we should still be friends and i said "WHY?" and she got super pissed and remains pissed to this day. (I'm not....) Me, i don't go. Drama is for women.
Right on that you weren't gonna take her scraps and get into the Friend Zone. I applaud you. Alot of guys would be desperate just to be close...even as friends. GTFO!!!
You should go, but give her a nice "gift" as a token of your appreciation
For example, open a half dozen cans of tuna fish and leave them outside in the sun for a couple weeks, then dump those into a gift bag, add a bow and you got yourself a conversation piece. Covertly drop it off along with the rest of the gifts. Everyone walking by the gift table will be commenting "god thats awful!! smells like old tuna" and you can be all like "yeah, that's what he said" while pointing at the groom
Eventually it would be discovered and you would be the obvious culprit, but then you can just let her know about all the swell benefits of omega-3 fatty acids from eating fish. It's the thought that counts, right?
You should go, but give her a nice "gift" as a token of your appreciation
For example, open a half dozen cans of tuna fish and leave them outside in the sun for a couple weeks, then dump those into a gift bag, add a bow and you got yourself a conversation piece. Covertly drop it off along with the rest of the gifts. Everyone walking by the gift table will be commenting "god thats awful!! smells like old tuna" and you can be all like "yeah, that's what he said" while pointing at the groom
I like it. If she doesn't appreciate the joke, she doesn't deserve to be happy.
It totally depends on where your at personally. If you have any residual feelings for her then HELL NO! Why do that to yourself?
But.... if you know that you're completely over her and that you can summon the courage to be genuinely happy for her and her husband, then go.
It could be incredibly self rewarding to show up be respectful, display great character infront if her friends and family and walk out of there with head held high.
The break up was "months ago"?! And now she's getting married?
Lol.
Don't go.
yeah, uhm what? So, she is getting married within a year of even dating this guy? Go and **** her in the bathroom right after the ceremony. Its the only gentlemanly thing to do.
Re: Ex Girlfriend Getting Married
Alot of guys would be desperate just to be close...even as friends. GTFO!!!
