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Old 08-16-2012, 02:20 AM   #46
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I like it when my girl is open but when they start talking about history with the opposite sex it always pushes a button that I don't like to be pressed. It's weird, I feel like a little kid that sees his crush talking to another guy.

So when you originally said that her past doesn't concern you, what you really meant was that her past REALLY concerns you if you know about it.
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Old 08-16-2012, 02:29 AM   #47
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So when you originally said that her past doesn't concern you, what you really meant was that her past REALLY concerns you if you know about it.

It doesn't concern me in the sense that it has nothing to do with what her and I have going on. So therefore in my mind what happened with her relationship history is irrelevant. However when it has been brought up, then yes I do start to get a little weird but I try to fight it off. For me, it's natural and it lets me know I truly do care for the girl.
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Old 08-16-2012, 02:29 AM   #48
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I don't really try and get into that but that goes both ways in the relationship for me because it can lead to the more inexperienced partner feeling insecure. But when it gets down to it you should always be able to tell if your girl is inexperienced, experienced, or a downright slut.
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Old 08-16-2012, 08:53 AM   #49
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Don't ask if you can't handle it. No doubt there's part of every girls past that the guy would rather believe never happened. If you like the person in front of you today then it shouldn't matter.








...but 80 dudes? I'm pretty good about putting a girls past out of mind but that would be a deal breaker for me. That is not a normal past.
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Old 08-16-2012, 09:29 AM   #50
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80 dudes? I've met some freaks that slept around and didnt come nowhere near that number. At any rate, dont ask what you cant handle. Thats the bottomline. If after 3 whole years nothing is wrong with the relationship stuff like that is something that shouldnt derail you two being together imo.

This topic smells like an exagerration. How many did your girlfriend tell you she actually slept with OP?

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Old 08-16-2012, 09:37 AM   #51
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I don't know. It's funny how true the statement "ignorance is bliss" really is. I'd rather not know the woman I'd contemplate spending my life with has slept with so many men.

I think in the long run, that would be a deal breaker for me. I can understand some people saying, "Well, the past is the past." But no. I don't like to think that way unless it's minuscule matters. A woman sleeping with 80 men isn't a small problem to me.

So after 3 whole years you cant pinpoint anything wrong with her, the relationship and you're contemplating spending the rest of your life with her which in my world means MARRIAGE. That her sexual past that you congtinually picked at like a scab for her to reveal would be a big issue with you, deal breaker? Thats pretty retarded to me.

So now you sit there feeling some type of way. Why? She isnt sleeping around on you. She is eveything you want in a woman to take that big step and committ to her. You took her to mom dukes, went on vacations together and somehow her revealing that has you not her YOU about to ruin the relationship because you cant handle what you picked at. Makes no sense.

What changes things after she reveals it? She no longer becomes trustworthy despite being trustworthy for 3yrs having you about to get on bended knee? You cant even think of anything really. But it;'ll be a deal breaker in the long run because you'll be up at night thinking about 80 men.
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Old 08-16-2012, 10:22 AM   #52
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So after 3 whole years you cant pinpoint anything wrong with her, the relationship and you're contemplating spending the rest of your life with her which in my world means MARRIAGE. That her sexual past that you congtinually picked at like a scab for her to reveal would be a big issue with you, deal breaker? Thats pretty retarded to me.

So now you sit there feeling some type of way. Why? She isnt sleeping around on you. She is eveything you want in a woman to take that big step and committ to her. You took her to mom dukes, went on vacations together and somehow her revealing that has you not her YOU about to ruin the relationship because you cant handle what you picked at. Makes no sense.

What changes things after she reveals it? She no longer becomes trustworthy despite being trustworthy for 3yrs having you about to get on bended knee? You cant even think of anything really. But it;'ll be a deal breaker in the long run because you'll be up at night thinking about 80 men.


you're right in that he should've never probed further into it .. let the past stay where it is, the past .. he liked everything about her .. great .. but he did find out .. it's done .. now he knows .. now he knows what most guys would dread knowing .. it's out in the open .. you don't have a problem knowing that your bride to be has had 80+ cocks in her snatch, mouth, ass ?

and how do you know she hasn't cheated on him .. her reputation says otherwise ..

his 'lady' has been used and abused like a cuum rag .. like an escort .. that's what his gf basically was before him .. an escort .. no, she was worse than an escort because she probably didn't get paid for each of those encounters .. would you marry an escort ? if you would, props to you for overlooking that .. but most men wouldn't
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Old 08-16-2012, 10:23 AM   #53
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Is this a real scenario for you, or just a hypothetical situation? My first thought is: I believe a strong relationship is built on communication, so I would want to have a conversation about previous experiences, and this would take place WAY before 3 years has passed. Second, if she avoids such conversations, I would want to know even more and CERTAINLY wouldn't wait 3 years. Third, if a girl I'm with dropped a bombshell within a couple months that she has f*cked 80 guys, that would bother me, but if the girl makes me happy, she isn't pumped full of diseases, and that portion of her life is over, then I would work to get over it because at that point it is my issue and not hers. Hopefully, I could get over it. Finally, if a girl led me to believe that she had an average sex life previously or just a bit more than average, and then reveals that she had misled me for 3 years and had f*cked 80 guys, that would probably be a big enough deception for me to never trust her again and I would more than likely leave her. Not for sure, but my instinct says "what else does she keep from me?"


But is there a limit, Myth? I think this "Oh, but she makes me happy" thing is just an easy and cute thing to say. Would you have a serious relationship with a girl ho was gang banged by 5 guys at the same time? What about a girl that had "sex" with a dog or a girl who, in her 20's, used to have regular sex with her brother?

I sure as hell would not a serious relationship with a girl who has slept with 80 guys, much less one of the others scenarios.
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Old 08-16-2012, 10:27 AM   #54
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But is there a limit, Myth? I think this "Oh, but she makes me happy" thing is just an easy and cute thing to say. Would you have a serious relationship with a girl ho was gang banged by 5 guys at the same time? What about a girl that had "sex" with a dog or a girl who, in her 20's, used to have regular sex with her brother ?

I sure as hell would not a serious relationship with a girl who has slept with 80 guys, much less one of the others scenarios.

amen .. most guys would agree with that .. that's fkn insane .. the only guys I can see overlooking that are guys who are absolutely desperate and longing for companionship from anyone

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Old 08-16-2012, 10:32 AM   #55
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It's not relevant unless it's something that will come up in the future (like it's a guy who is always around and you'll find out, or she has a kid, etc.). You can't worry about that past. And note: Guys want these virginal partners because they were never touched and they were jealous, please note that everyone gets curious. I'm not sure it's a good idea to be the first and only, as they'll be with you when the thought crosses their mind of what they missed.

And if you start finding out way too much (like you run into a guy every other day) then yes, she might have been a hoe and i don't think it's wrong if that changes your opinion on the woman.
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Old 08-16-2012, 11:23 AM   #56
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if she only had a few, cool.

if she opened up for half the army, best not to know.
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Old 08-16-2012, 11:42 AM   #57
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you should pretend to be confident and saying:
'80, ah, it doesn't matter,eh, 'cause I am gonna own your 1 inch deeper ****** which 80 men have never explored'
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Old 08-16-2012, 11:44 AM   #58
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Sleeping with 80 dudes is more than some Porn stars careers. Sleeping with 80 dudes means she has some serious problems relationships. It means she cant stay in a relationship but cant live with out one. I had a female friend who slept about 34 guys and she was about 19 at that time. She was batshit crazy.

The number of girls/boys someone says multiply/divide it by 3. If its a guy, take the number of girls they said and divide it by 3, if it's a girl take the number of guys and multiply if my 3.

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Old 08-16-2012, 11:47 AM   #59
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Old 08-16-2012, 12:03 PM   #60
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Stupid thread. Who cares? I have been with over 40, and it's not an issue. If both parties are just upfront about this, it shouldn't be an issue. If one person has an issue, then move on. I wouldn't want to be with someone that is petty and cares about stuff like that.
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