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Old 08-16-2012, 12:41 PM   #76
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It's clear he has issues with how many dicks have been in a woman. He's obviously worried how he will measure up and/or whether she will stick around.

Some people just don't enter long term relationships until they find the right person. One of my good friends was single until 28, notoriously single. She met a guy she finally liked (liked all aspects of him) and now they're married. She had a bit of a sordid past (quite a few sexual partners) but she's as honest as they come and does not mess around.

A lot of you sound insecure - searching for virgins. You may as well all convert to being Muslims.

there is nothing insecure about wanting a girl that doesn't have a damn sex addiction...
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Old 08-16-2012, 12:52 PM   #77
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It depends.. Only advice I ever give to other dudes on the subject is

"Don't ask questions if you don't really want to hear the answers"

If you can handle it? go ahead and ask


If you can't? acknowledge that and don't ask.. If you trust her, then that's what is important.

When you cant' handle it, you f*ck your own head up by finding out thing s you don't need to know.

Women do things.... don't doubt it.. but you don't always need to know everything

Reminds me of that Chris Rock joke: "No matter how many she says, to us it's always going to be too many. "TWO! Well I guess that's how you were raised"
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Old 08-16-2012, 12:55 PM   #78
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It's clear he has issues with how many dicks have been in a woman. He's obviously worried how he will measure up and/or whether she will stick around.


I'll admit that I might feel a little insecure if the girl I'm with has f*cked 80 black guys before me... Maybe then I'll be a little worried if I "measure up".

Also... I remember learning about STD's in High School... You must have skipped class that day. (That's the main reason I want to know my partners
sexual history).

And most of the women I date want a serious relationship... I'm the one
that's trying to keep things casual...
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Old 08-16-2012, 12:56 PM   #79
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has nothing to do with being insecure and everything to do with the chick having self respect .. if she doesn't have any self respect as a lady why should I respect her ? in fact, that's just it .. I won't respect her if I know she's stuffed 80 different cocks into her mouth .. bitches who go around sucking every guy's dick are trashy and not worthy of being made into a wife .. of course though .. there will always be some sucker out there who will marry them after they've been used up like a cuum rag ..

Do you hold the same standard to men? Are you from the bible belt?
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Old 08-16-2012, 01:04 PM   #80
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Do you hold the same standard to men? Are you from the bible belt?

I personally do. To give an arbitrary number of what's more acceptable, perhaps 20-25 at most for me - this applying to both guys and girls.

Not to say that I hold sex sacred or overly value sex, but to me a girl (or guy) that's slept with ~80 guys DOES make me uncomfortable. Whether it be because of fears of measuring up, uncomfortable with the idea she's just straight up been with so many guys, jealousy.

I think it's perfectly reasonable for any guy (or girl) to feel like that when a prospective girlfriend/boyfriend has been with 80+ people, it feels like that they don't hold at least some sort of standard for giving it away and that they don't value their bodies somewhat (not saying that this is the case, but human nature would incline most to feel this way).

Since you're so liberal on the idea of sexual partners - would you be the kind willing to date/marry porn stars and prostitutes or is that a different scale.
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Old 08-16-2012, 01:14 PM   #81
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I think for me at my age for a woman

1-10 partners = inexperienced
10-20 partners = normal
20-30 partners = a little more than average
30-40 partners = "been around"
40+ = will likely cheat on you eventually, possible sex addiction
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Old 08-16-2012, 01:23 PM   #82
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Do you hold the same standard to men?


why would I feel the need to ?

you liberals/feminists crack me up ..

contrary to what y'all have been brainwashing the masses with for decades now .. men and women are not equal .. not the same .. not anything .. so we are not going to have the same standards

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Old 08-16-2012, 01:27 PM   #83
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A lot of you sound insecure - searching for virgins. You may as well all convert to being Muslims.

No one said anything about virgins. Every guy expects a girl to have a past but 80 different partners is a shit load especially while still in the 20's. There's being insecure and then there's identifying a pattern and seeing a problem. I think 80 dudes falls under the latter.

I would say the same about a guy having 80 different women. I have two buddies that are like that and try to increase their number every chance they get. After seeing them with so many different girls I always feel bad for the next, and they probably don't come close to 80 combined.
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Old 08-16-2012, 01:30 PM   #84
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a necessary evil. people can change.. but they usually don't. and bad habits stay bad habits and they come creeping back with a vengeance...
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Old 08-16-2012, 01:35 PM   #85
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a necessary evil. people can change.. but they usually don't. and bad habits stay bad habits and they come creeping back with a vengeance...

well said .. eventually .. always .. at some point .. having a pattern of banging that many people will show up again no doubt .. I don't believe at all that a chick like that will stay faithful in the long haul
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Old 08-16-2012, 01:57 PM   #86
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you're right in that he should've never probed further into it .. let the past stay where it is, the past .. he liked everything about her .. great .. but he did find out .. it's done .. now he knows .. now he knows what most guys would dread knowing .. it's out in the open .. you don't have a problem knowing that your bride to be has had 80+ cocks in her snatch, mouth, ass ?

and how do you know she hasn't cheated on him .. her reputation says otherwise ..

his 'lady' has been used and abused like a cuum rag .. like an escort .. that's what his gf basically was before him .. an escort .. no, she was worse than an escort because she probably didn't get paid for each of those encounters .. would you marry an escort ? if you would, props to you for overlooking that .. but most men wouldn't

You're just making up stuff as you post. How do we know he isnt bisexual and likes it up the ass more than getting blowjobs huh? You see, I can add stuff as I post to sound like a moron too. Only you do it naturally. Good job, good effort.
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Old 08-16-2012, 02:12 PM   #87
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But is there a limit, Myth? I think this "Oh, but she makes me happy" thing is just an easy and cute thing to say.

There probably is a limit. I don't know what it is, because it depends on my reaction in the actual event of finding out such info. If I can handle the info and my life remains good with the girl, then fine. If I can't handle the info and it wears on my psyche, then it becomes a deal breaker. 80 very well may be above my limit already, but I'm not ending a relationship based on a number, I would end the relationship based on my reaction to the number.

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Would you have a serious relationship with a girl ho was gang banged by 5 guys at the same time?

Yes. But again, it depends on my reaction to knowing such info. Part of my reaction would likely depend on how long ago it was. If it was something she tried 10 years ago, that would be easier to get past and just attribute to her past. If she did that 10 days before we dated, I'm pretty sure my reaction would be to get away fast.

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What about a girl that had "sex" with a dog or a girl who, in her 20's, used to have regular sex with her brother?

No and no. I am positive I would have a negative reaction to those that I couldn't get over. I have strong moral objections to both of those behaviors. Having sex with multiple people is something I can understand, because it is something I could see myself doing, although not to the same level.

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I sure as hell would not a serious relationship with a girl who has slept with 80 guys, much less one of the others scenarios.

I probably wouldn't either, but it isn't an automatic deal breaker. As I said, my reaction dictates if I will be with somebody, not a number.
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Old 08-16-2012, 02:14 PM   #88
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You're just making up stuff as you post. How do we know he isnt bisexual and likes it up the ass more than getting blowjobs huh? You see, I can add stuff as I post to sound like a moron too. Only you do it naturally. Good job, good effort.

the point is .. if it's true that she's been with 80+ men .. she's damaged goods .. no, calling her damaged goods would be a compliment
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Old 08-16-2012, 02:19 PM   #89
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I've had my fare share of women... and I always bring this topic to the table within the first week or two...
and it's not always because I'm concerned, sometimes there just isn't anything else interesting to talk about...

Sex is a fun subject to bring up when you're having a boring conversation.


Very true. As I said earlier, I always talk about sexual past with a girl I care about because I am curious about her experiences. As you said, sex is a fun subject. I'd hate to be in a relationship for 3 years and never have been open enough to talk about sexual experiences. I'm not marrying a girl that I feel like certain subjects have to be avoided forever.
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Old 08-16-2012, 03:07 PM   #90
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80 sounds like a lot, but truthfully any nearly 30 year old woman who is reasonably good-looking and goes clubbing can bed 80 guys without much effort. It takes more effort for a guy to bed 80 women, than a woman to bed 80 guys. A single woman who wants no attachments can get laid every weekend she goes out. That's 4 guys in a month, 48 guys just in a year. Sounds slutty, but not crazy to imagine depending on the female. I dated a girl years ago who I know was sexually liberated (i.e been around a few times), but hey it wasn't like I was a virgin and we had fun.
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