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Old Yesterday, 10:32 PM   #1
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Default You guys ever had a friend with serious anger issues?

What did you do?

This kids been my boy for about 3 years. He's cool around me but I can see how angry he can be. Speaks to his mother beyond disrespectfully, can't take a 5 minute drive without flipping someone off, and any little thing can ruin his day.

His mother doesn't know what to do with him, she sometimes calls me asking for help because he's havin a anger episode but there's nothing I can really do, I'm not a psychologist. He's got some issues and nobody knows how to help him and it's gonna become a sad story when something serious happens to him.

The crazy part is how good he has it. His parents are willing to pay for him to go to college but he doesn't want too, they got him a BMW, they're trying to give him a job with the family but he can't sleep at night so he says it's hard for him to wake up in the morning and work he thinks once he has money he'll be happy but I doubt that.

Normally I wouldn't call a guy like this my friend but somehow we became close and I wanna help him. But idk how. He's a bright kid but his anger well always get in the way of accomplishing anything

How do you help someone who doesn't want to be helped?
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Default Re: You guys ever had a friend with serious anger issues?

Sit down and have a serious talk with the kid.
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Default Re: You guys ever had a friend with serious anger issues?

3 options

1) Have a heart to heart about this....but it will probably just make him angry

2) Anger management/therapy. There is professional help for this, but he probably will be against it

3) He needs to just figure it out on his own. You and his mom should give him some tough love so he figures it out. I would take a break in that friendship so he can think about it. He needs healthy outlets and his unhappiness needs to be addressed and reconciled. And no it's not about money.

Good luck!

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Default Re: You guys ever had a friend with serious anger issues?

Talk to him about it but then cut him out if he doesn't change. Don't be friends with ass holes
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Default Re: You guys ever had a friend with serious anger issues?

He won't change unless he learns his lesson.

Let him do something stupid...or many stupid things.

You aren't gonna convince him to change no matter how good your sit-down is.
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He won't change unless he learns his lesson.

Let him do something stupid...or many stupid things.

You aren't gonna convince him to change no matter how good your sit-down is.

this. He needs to get his ass kicked and some sense beat into him.
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Default Re: You guys ever had a friend with serious anger issues?

Kill him bro
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Default Re: You guys ever had a friend with serious anger issues?

Try to make it on his own... he'll either figure it out or come back to mom and dad with a new found respect. You can't be having anger issues when others are flipping the bill.
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no but every fukking member of my family does.

every. single. one.
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Default Re: You guys ever had a friend with serious anger issues?

from your post he sounds like an angry young man (16-29 years old is when men are their most easily angered, around 30 they learn how to chill and rationalize) who is spoiled and bored.

he needs something in his life, a part time job, a hobby, something other than staying up late and sleeping in.

he has no outlet.

even joining a gym might not be a bad idea.

but the key is structure and schedule, this will refocus his energy where now it is coming out as anger.


no amount of chats, or therapy will fix this they will only be met with hostility.
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Default Re: You guys ever had a friend with serious anger issues?

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That doesn't help lol




Seriously this will not help. I've dealt with these guys and it's very difficult to reach an understanding with them. Often, they are too consumed with themselves and will never seek to receive the same compassion/thought from you. I know it sucks, but it is what it is
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Default Re: You guys ever had a friend with serious anger issues?

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no but every fukking member of my family does.

every. single. one.

How do you deal with it?
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