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Old 05-30-2013, 11:36 AM   #31
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Default Re: Female ish: How do you get out of a serious relationship?

Start looking at other options and then break that sh(t off son.
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Old 05-30-2013, 12:11 PM   #32
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Default Re: Female ish: How do you get out of a serious relationship?

There is no easy way. Even terrible relationships are hard to break out of.

Just suck it up and tell her.
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Old 05-30-2013, 03:50 PM   #33
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Default Re: Female ish: How do you get out of a serious relationship?

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I dated two girls before but those lasted less than a month. So yeah, pretty much my first so that's why I'm so foreign to this process.

I'd say it's your first real relationship and the fact that it has lasted more than 2 years would explain why you feel so invested in it. Speaking from experience you really shouldn't feel bad about breaking up with someone who makes you unhappy. They certainly don't think twice about your feelings. By staying in this sour relationship you're hurting your chances of meeting the right woman.

My advice is break it off with her and don't contact her again, as hard as it might be don't let her have power over you (Which is what she has now). Go be single and go on a few dates, you're 21 years old you have many years to find the right woman. Staying with this one will just screw with your mind and turn you into a woman hater.
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Old 04-11-2014, 09:56 PM   #34
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Default Re: Female ish: How do you get out of a serious relationship?

Ugh. One year later. Same old story.

It's so difficult, man. Even harder to break up now because of living together and have pets together as well. I can't live my life this way...if it's this bad now...wtf would the future be like?

Could use some more encouraging words, fellas. I need to end this somehow someway...and soon.
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Old 04-11-2014, 10:27 PM   #35
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Default Re: Female ish: How do you get out of a serious relationship?

Dude wtf, you're still with her?

What keeps you going back? Because you're afraid of her being hurt? That's not cool man.

You need to create a fight and just end it. I was in a similar situation as you with my ex. I knew I didn't want to marry her, was with her for almost 3 years and just got into a fight with her. And then I said this is not going to work. I took the jump. At the time I was like HELL YEAH I DID IT. The next few days I was miserable. But I got back in touch with my best friend and we were miserable together just chillin and we shared our stories with exes and eventually you get over it. Just take the jump dude. Life is too damn short to stick with someone because you don't wanna see someone heartbroken. You're young as hell.

DO IT.
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Old 04-11-2014, 10:27 PM   #36
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Default Re: Female ish: How do you get out of a serious relationship?

There is no encouragement. You know what you have to do.

Do it. Tell her you need a few months to yourself, or outright break up with her.

And if you don't feel comfortable doing it, if you don't like confrontation or change... Then tell her that she needs to behave in a different way towards you, or you have to answer back and not only act pissed, but really mad. She needs to see she is fvcking up.

If you can't tell her to change , or can't bring yourself to break up.....

Then you have become too dependant on her, in more ways than just emotionally. Read up on that topic, this is not the way you are supposed to be living life.

Not trying to be harsh man, just being honest.
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Old 04-11-2014, 10:28 PM   #37
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Default Re: Female ish: How do you get out of a serious relationship?

Just tell her. Y'all don't have kids so it shouldn't be that hard unless you just don't wanna say goodbye
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Old 04-11-2014, 10:29 PM   #38
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Default Re: Female ish: How do you get out of a serious relationship?

Let me ask you, are you always miserable with her? Or is it just after a fight? Are there good times? Or even when you aren't fighting with her, you still feel trapped?
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Old 04-11-2014, 10:33 PM   #39
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Default Re: Female ish: How do you get out of a serious relationship?

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Let me ask you, are you always miserable with her? Or is it just after a fight? Are there good times? Or even when you aren't fighting with her, you still feel trapped?
Thanks for your advice in the post above as well....and not always miserable but I'd say a good 70% of the time.

It's all one big ****ing cycle. 2 horrible weeks, 1 great week, 2 horrible, etc etc. I mean it's to the point when she is so controlling over everything I do, beyond clingy, and not independent WHAT SO EVER.

I'm always on my toes afraid to make a mistake...it's terrible. It's even worse that she blames me for her being pissy/upset/total c*nt all the time.
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Old 04-11-2014, 10:43 PM   #40
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Default Re: Female ish: How do you get out of a serious relationship?

End this horrible relationship right now, not tomorrow, not next week, tonight - right now, period. You're being a coward that's the only reason this thread is still alive. Get off the f*cking computer and tell her it's over.
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Old 04-11-2014, 10:47 PM   #41
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Default Re: Female ish: How do you get out of a serious relationship?

You're 22 nikka, get out of this shite before its too late, too young for that.

As said before, you really got to look out for your best interests, and being with her seems to be pretty bad for you. Life sucks, don't make it worse, cut away from as much shit bringing you down as possible.
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Old 04-11-2014, 11:05 PM   #42
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Default Re: Female ish: How do you get out of a serious relationship?

Instigate a fight, have her get lubed up for a verbal assault of all of her hurtful transgressions and things she has done to harm you over the term of the relationship then punctuate with this EXACT motion and tone of voice:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YhkNLHictW8


... or maybe that's just what I would like to happen. Good luck tho
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Old 04-11-2014, 11:35 PM   #43
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Enjoy your wedding!!!
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Old 04-11-2014, 11:54 PM   #44
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End it now. I hoped this got bumped so that you could say that it's over but this is bad. Tell the b*tch to kick the road.
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Thanks for your advice in the post above as well....and not always miserable but I'd say a good 70% of the time.

It's all one big ****ing cycle. 2 horrible weeks, 1 great week, 2 horrible, etc etc. I mean it's to the point when she is so controlling over everything I do, beyond clingy, and not independent WHAT SO EVER.

I'm always on my toes afraid to make a mistake...it's terrible. It's even worse that she blames me for her being pissy/upset/total c*nt all the time.
Yep, stop being a p*ssy bro. Life isn't that long and do you really wanna go through this for the rest of it. It sucks thinking about it but once you end it, it'll feel like a burden got lifted off you
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