Obviously you're one of the weird outliers! 90% of the time my theory holds water.
There's reasons why I prefer one over the other though
Director's cut: Drew Barrymore's role feels less like a cameo. And how he interacts with his parents is better. So I feel it drives home the themes of the movie more.
Theatrical: However I feel like the better version of the film to watch the first time is the theatrical because it's much more ambiguous. So I can understand why people prefer it. But it's one of those rare movies where I think the director's cut actually makes a difference, because I feel it gives it a pretty concise meaning.