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Old 11-18-2013, 01:51 AM   #16
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Couples therapy. Do it.
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Old 11-18-2013, 01:59 AM   #17
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Default Re: Really feel like the wife doesn't love me anymore

ISH and sensitivity

have you dudes never been in a real relationship? damn you all are cold

OP when did you start having problems?

Have you considered if this is postpartum depression?
Have you guys considered counselling?

It could be anything, sometimes something as simple as a chemical imbalance.
Few tips:
Try to think of what you feel upset about in your relationship, perhaps she has similar concerns.
You need to talk with your wife, dont let her make you fight. Prepare yourself for screaming/insults/provocations. Dont give in. and try to articulate what is wrong with your relationship.

Finally, you arent doing your child a lot of good just staying together because of her. There are many studies that show that although a happy household is better for child development than a single household, unhappy hostile household creates a lot of stress for children. The only thing here is sometimes the mother is bitter and tries to deny access to the children. our divorce laws are extremely prejudicial against the father.
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Old 11-18-2013, 02:10 AM   #18
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Default Re: Really feel like the wife doesn't love me anymore

A child isn't really a reason to stay with someone... Growing up around a toxic relationship can be more detrimental to a child than you guys be divorced... If you tried and you feel like you've done the best you could to make your marriage work and its still in the dumps it's time to call it quits

The next step would be talking to your wife about a trial separation and the possibility of the marriage coming to a end... Life's to short to be unhappy everyday
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Old 11-18-2013, 02:26 AM   #19
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Things haven't felt right in a while. I feel like I try and she keeps on hating me no matter what. I think that I love her but it honestly feels like I would be better off single. We have a daughter together and that's the main reason we dont really consider divorce. I keep hoping it will get better but I'm starting to lose hope.

She won't even kiss me really anymore. She just says she's not really into it anymore. I'm not happy but I want to be happy with her for the sake of our daughter and we really did have something at first.

She says that's she's depressed and she really hasn't been the same since she had our daughter a little over a year ago. I dont know if I should just give up or what. Anyone have any advice or personal experience with this?
Sounds like postpartum depression.
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Old 11-18-2013, 02:30 AM   #20
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Sorry to hear that OP. I don't have any better advice than anybody but I hope things get better.
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Old 11-18-2013, 02:30 AM   #21
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grandma wives look so disgusting to share a bed with. they just let go of themselves and look like afro headed males.
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Old 11-18-2013, 02:34 AM   #22
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ask yourself first what you want in your life (aside from a happy marriage and a happy family) what i mean is, if you're single, what would you be doing? if you have a job, do you like it or do you wish to do something else? find out what you'd like to do for the rest of your life and then pursue it. my guess is, you're unfulfilled because you're not doing what you'd really like to do. perhaps you're a frustrated artist, or a frustrated chef, or lawyer, or whatever. point is, your unhappiness is spilling over into your marriage life. fix yourself first. if you're out of shape, exercise and get in shape. then just ditch your job and say fk all and pursue your dream job. don't think about what your wife will say or what will happen to your daughter. most times, if you fix yourself, your home life will improve. be angry enough to do something about your life.

when you're happy about yourself, it tends to spill over into other aspects in your life. you treat your wife better, you get angry less, you are more understanding. basically, everything that your wife might be needing from you lies in fixing yourself.

you can't love others, unless you can love yourself. so fix yourself first in a way that you will love yourself and will be happy about yourself. you'll be amazed at how much it will change your marriage. your wife will be attracted to you once again, your sex life will be better, and you will have a loving family again.

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Old 11-18-2013, 02:47 AM   #23
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Default Re: Really feel like the wife doesn't love me anymore

This is why they have couples counselling/therapy.

Heck if you don't wanna pay for it talk to your priest/local church. They are trained for this kind of stuff too.
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Old 11-18-2013, 03:10 AM   #24
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Shouldn't have got married when you were 19, idiot.
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Old 11-18-2013, 03:16 AM   #25
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Default Re: Really feel like the wife doesn't love me anymore

Postpartum depression, it's pretty common but this seems to be a severe case so she needs to see a therapist.

Check this out: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Postpartum_depression
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Old 11-18-2013, 04:00 AM   #26
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whyd you get married in the first place doe?
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Old 11-18-2013, 05:25 AM   #27
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You need to divorce her ASAP, stay in your daughter's life but move on with your love life.

Things won't change. You were basically kids when you met, you guys don't love each other and will only keep each other miserable if you stay together. On top of that down the line one of you will encounter a new love and someone will be cheated on.

Divorce. And also the advice about being happy with/by yourself before you hitch is also golden. Divorce and then apply that advice.
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Old 11-18-2013, 05:27 AM   #28
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Default Re: Really feel like the wife doesn't love me anymore

Have a nice family outing. If you have a daughter don't give up so easily. You have to think about your daughter. If you get divorced she will probably end up being a stripper or doing porn. Talk like two adults..get to the problem.
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Old 11-18-2013, 05:43 AM   #29
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I'm hoping its just a bad case of postpartum depression. I'll see if she will go to the doctor.
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Old 11-18-2013, 05:44 AM   #30
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Because growing up with your parents being in a loveless marriage does wonders to you.

Tell her you want a divorce because you don't feel she loves you anymore and the spark is gone.

One of two things will happen. 1) She will realize she does love you and she will make an effort to save your marriage. 2) She will accept, in time move on like you and hopefully you will not become enemies = happy divorced family.

The key is not becoming enemies, but if she doesn't love you and isn't crazy (IS SHE CRAZY?) then it won't happen. Most likely she is crazy though as 90 % of the female gender. If she is crazy there is a 3) She neither loves you but don't want you to move on (for many reasons, maybe because she can't move on herself and wants to drag you down to her level) in which case you will become enemies and 'happy divorced family' will be tough to attain.

Good luck, bro.
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