I'm fairly confident this is a no-brainer, but the reason I ask is because I see the wrong choice being made far too often:
this happened to one of my friends and I felt utterly disgusted at him.
so essentially, he is fat, shy and overbearing. he hooked up with a girl who is in shape, not exactly hot stuff, but better than he deserves. he's good to her, but he's pretty much a coward.
some other guy hits on his girl, telling her to leave the fat bastard for a real man. something along those lines.
so this friend of mine asks me for advice. I told him to stand up for his woman and not be such a coward. I told him to stand up for his honor.
instead, he gets mad at his girl.
she even said no to the other dude... but my fat, spineless friend told me she should not have even been in that situation in the first place.
So I tell him he made a wrong choice and that he should stand up for his woman rather than blame her for something she had no control over.
then he told me he did not think it was a wise course of action to start trouble with someone over a woman.
i called him a spineless coward with no honor.
then he said it was not worth getting suspended over.
then I said "you could have just mouthed him off you know?"
he considers it and says: " no that's not my style."
so a few months later, she dumps him for that other guy, and now this "friend" of mine, whom I can no longer see as a friend since he has revealed himself to be a coward, a crybaby, and a drama queen, is moping day and night about his loss in a "woe is me" fashion.
lesson to take in:
Always stand up for your woman. Be a man about it.