Rate your conversation/speaking skills with this scale

Pick the one that best describes you. There is carry over...For example: #3 says, "You think you suck at holding a conversation". That also applies to #1 and #2 as well.

[b]1.[/b] Usually has to clarify. Stammers basically every time you speak for an extended length(More than just "hey" or "how's it going"). This person has gotten completely stuck when asked a question, a question that if you were alone would've been easy to answer. Your conversations run dry before they even start.
[i][Dull, Lackluster][/i]

[b]2.[/b] Usually has to clarify when speaking for an extended length. Your conversations run dry very quickly. Somewhere between 1 and 3.
[i][Dull, Lackluster][/i]

[b]3.[/b] Either stammers or has to clarify more often than not when speaking for an extended length. You often feel caught off guard when expected to respond after being spoken to. You worry about what you're going say next. You think you suck at holding a conversation.
[i][Not interesting][/i]

[b]4.[/b] Either stammers or has to clarify sometimes, less often than not. Your conversations tend to run dry after a while and at least one awkward silence is guaranteed. On average, you'd say the person you are talking to is definitely better at holding a conversation than you are, even if only by a little. The person you are talking to usually speaks more than you do. You feel the person you're talking to often feels uncomfortable. If a group is formed, you probably won't lead it.
[i][Not interesting][/i]

[b]5.[/b] Your conversations for the most part run fluently. What you're trying to say is usually understood by the listener(s). You can hold a conversation fairly well but sometimes worry they'll run dry. On average, you'd say the person you're talking to is at the very least slightly better at holding a conversation than you are.
[i][Somewhat interesting][/i]

[b]6.[/b] You think your speaking skills are around average. Your conversations tend to run fluently. On average, you and the person you're talking to say around the same amount of words in a conversation.
[i][Somewhat interesting][/i]

[b]7.[/b] Fluent speaker. This person typically leads his conversations, saying more words than the person/people they're talking to. Sometimes what you were trying to say you feel wasn't fully understood. Awkward silences do happen but they're usually brief and/or not that bad.
[i][Interesting][/i]

8- This person almost always leads his conversations. Your conversations rarely if ever run dry and there is never an awkward silence. On average, you'd say you're definitely better at holding a conversation than the person/people you're talking to. You never feel like the person you're talking to is uncomfortable.
[i][Interesting][/i]

[b]9.[/b] This person always leads his conversations. Your conversations never run dry and what you're going to say next never crosses your mind, you're immediately ready to respond after something is said to you. Your conversations go exactly how you want them to.
[i][Confident, Charismatic][/i]

[b]10.[/b] Never has to clarify, listener comprehends what you said right away. Your conversations go exactly how you want them to. This person has probably been complemented on their speaking skills in some way.
[i][Confident, Charismatic][/i]

I imagine the most frequent posters on average are better communicators, but it could be the opposite, or there could be no correlation. I'd rate myself a 3

3.

6 or 7

[QUOTE=Stuckey]6 or 7[/QUOTE]
me too

depends who I'm talking to I guess. With most people probably 6-7, but if I'm talking to my grandma or someone who can literally talk for hours I let them do their thing and throw in an occasional "yeah", "wow" or "right"

depends entirely on who im talking to. somebody i dont know, or dont have much in common with, pretty low, like 3ish.

also, i wouldnt neccesarily say that the more you speak the more charasmatic/interesting you are. plenty of know-it-all assholes talk all the time, control the conversation. it doesnt make them interesting or charismatic. it means he lacks self awareness

Probably a 7 or an 8, though I try to be mindful NOT to attempt to dominate a conversation as many people consider that rude or obnoxious.

I'd say 9. I'd be lying if I said I NEVER had to clarify something, but for the most part I'm just a very conversational person. My degree is in Public Relations so they pretty much taught us how to communicate most effectively, speak in front of hostile groups of people, think/respond quickly to unexpected questions and comments, keep our composure and talk our way out of any corner. Smile and wink, smile and wink :oldlol:

Talking to family and close friends; 7-8
Talking with everyone else; 3-4

Somewhere in between a 3 and 4.

Quite often, I find myself in awkward predicaments with attractive women who display interest in me but are waiting for me to start something. I don't. So, when they attempt to initiate a conversation, I end up stammering and sounding like an idiot with little clarity. Sometimes they find it endearing but I find it too awkward and am too ashamed to continue.

This happened at the book store today.

:(

I'm such an idiot.

i suck at speaking. but one day i will learn to articulate and be well spoken.

[IMG]http://wildpitchsports.com/wp-content/uploads/Terrelle-Owens-Crying.gif[/IMG]

[QUOTE=Stuckey]6 or 7[/QUOTE]
samesies

i'm twice better when im drunk (or high back in the days), that's all i know

I talk a lot, and love presenting speeches and whatnot. My Public Speaking teacher says I'm probably one of the best she's had over the past 27 years. :cheers: But if you're talking about flirting with a girl and just hanging out, I'm almost always the one starting conversations, continuing them, bringing up a bunch of things, etc. So somewhere between a 9-10.

Between 8 or 10 depending on who that person is.

I kilt an interview at work the other day just by speaking hot shit. I call it the three C's of Cuccess. Confidence, charisma, charming.

Kizzle kill yourself. You can't even make a proper thread, yet you call yourself a master at the art of the conversation.

To be a great talker, you have to share details, I couldn't imagine being friends with you. I would get so tired about asking questions that prompt you to share details that anyone with a brain would use in their story. I might end up bitch slapping you.

Kizzle:"I saw this girl today and she was so hot"

*end of conversation*

[QUOTE=RaininTwos]Kizzle kill yourself. You can't even make a proper thread, yet you call yourself a master at the art of the conversation.

To be a great talker, you have to share details, I couldn't imagine being friends with you. I would get so tired about asking questions that prompt you to share details that anyone with a brain would use in their story. I might end up bitch slapping you.

Kizzle:"I saw this girl today and she was so hot"

*end of conversation*[/QUOTE]
Thats harsh :lol

[QUOTE=RaininTwos]Kizzle kill yourself. You can't even make a proper thread, yet you call yourself a master at the art of the conversation.

To be a great talker, you have to share details, I couldn't imagine being friends with you. I would get so tired about asking questions that prompt you to share details that anyone with a brain would use in their story. I might end up bitch slapping you.

Kizzle:"I saw this girl today and she was so hot"

*end of conversation*[/QUOTE]
:lol Come on man,

Just cause I don't write ISH essays like Gobb or Kblaze or ShaqAttack I'm a bad speaker?

Don't let this little thing here we call a message board fool you.

7 is pretty accurate for me

[QUOTE=L.Kizzle]:lol Come on man,

Just cause I don't write ISH essays like Gobb or Kblaze or ShaqAttack I'm a bad speaker?

Don't let this little thing here we call a message board fool you.[/QUOTE]

Details dont turn your one sentence threads into essays bro

Am I the only one that can either be a 1 or an 8?

My mind travels a million miles per hour and at times I have bad speaking days. By that I mean I don't annunciate, can't pronounce I mumble the last part of my sentences, talk very fast, start off with one thought but finish with another (some of you may have noticed that one).

Then there's times when I capture people's attention, not just those I'm talking to directly but even other people around. People will stop and focus on what I have to say and everything just 'flows' naturally, with clarity, and precision. Authoritative but relatable.

I guess I'm weird.

[QUOTE=RaininTwos]Details dont turn your one sentence threads into essays bro[/QUOTE]
The sentence is a detail.


[QUOTE=RaininTwos]Kizzle:"I saw this girl today and she was so hot"

*end of conversation*[/QUOTE]
"She was hot." Nigha, that's the detail. I'm describing the girl, as hot.

[QUOTE=andgar923][b]Am I the only one that can either be a 1 or an 8?[/b]

My mind travels a million miles per hour and at times I have bad speaking days. By that I mean I don't annunciate, can't pronounce I mumble the last part of my sentences, talk very fast, start off with one thought but finish with another (some of you may have noticed that one).

Then there's times when I capture people's attention, not just those I'm talking to directly but even other people around. People will stop and focus on what I have to say and everything just 'flows' naturally, with clarity, and precision. Authoritative but relatable.

I guess I'm weird.[/QUOTE]
They completely contradict each other. "There is carry over" is key from the OP. That said..

#4 says, "The person you are talking to usually speaks more than you do" while #8 says, "This person almost always leads his conversations".
#4 says "On average, you'd say the person you are talking to is definitely better at holding a conversation than you are, even if only by a little" while #8 says, "On average, you'd say you're definitely better at holding a conversation than the person/people you're talking to".
#4 says "You feel the person you're talking to often feels uncomfortable" while #8 says "You never feel like the person you're talking to is uncomfortable"

Unless you're just talking about day to day(which now that I read the rest of your post I think you are), but still, "On average" and "usually" is key.

[QUOTE=L.Kizzle]The sentence is a detail.



"She was hot." Nigha, that's the detail. I'm describing the girl, as hot.[/QUOTE]
:biggums:

man fvck you

7 with guys, 4-10 with girls. Depends on the girl.

[QUOTE=RaininTwos]:biggums:

man fvck you[/QUOTE]
Details.

[QUOTE=L.Kizzle]Details.[/QUOTE]
8/10 post.

Serious conversations skills displayed here. Supporting details are being laid out in a perfectly logical manner and really interests the posters here at ISH.

[QUOTE=RaininTwos]8/10 post.

Serious conversations skills displayed here. Supporting details are being laid out in a perfectly logical manner and really interests the posters here at ISH.[/QUOTE]
Come on man,

You think I care about all that? I just try to have fun here. Hell, I do a few of those to get on peoples nerves you actually give a damn (like you :lol .) Just lighten up and have fun. I'll post a short story when need be.

[QUOTE=BuGzBuNNy][b]3.[/b] Either stammers or has to clarify more often than not when speaking for an extended length. You often feel caught off guard when expected to respond after being spoken to. You worry about what you're going say next. You think you suck at holding a conversation.[i][Not interesting][/i][/QUOTE]

Probably this in RL.

[QUOTE=chips93]depends entirely on who im talking to. somebody i dont know, or dont have much in common with, pretty low, like 3ish.

also, i wouldnt neccesarily say that the more you speak the more charasmatic/interesting you are. plenty of know-it-all assholes talk all the time, control the conversation. it doesnt make them interesting or charismatic. it means he lacks self awareness[/QUOTE]
True

[QUOTE=BuGzBuNNy][b]9.[/b] This person always leads his conversations. Your conversations never run dry and what you're going to say next never crosses your mind, you're immediately ready to respond after something is said to you. Your conversations go exactly how you want them to.
[i][Confident, Charismatic][/i][/QUOTE]

On ISH.

Big difference between RL and ISH, I guess.

[QUOTE=L.Kizzle]Come on man,

You think I care about all that? I just try to have fun here. Hell, I do a few of those to get on peoples nerves you actually give a damn (like you :lol .) Just lighten up and have fun. I'll post a short story when need be.[/QUOTE]

There really is no justification for what you do. It has nothing to do with caring about writing short stories(the only short story you know is fabricated non-sense you tell about how you "lost" your virginity), it's just that any dude that talks about how hot a girl is will add in details. Details like what she was wearing, a celeb she looks like, how big T and A were,etc..

You tell more about yourself than you do the girl. These are just things that I've noticed over the years.

Unless I know what I'm talking about, i don't really say much.

I'm kinda ridiculously self conscious and i over think shit. In school i was one of the super-quiet kids up until junior yr of high school or so (i don't why that happened specifically, but towards the end of high school people were more mature and the pressure to be cool or whatever dissipated and mostly everyone talked to everyone, regardless of popularity) . It kinda sucks. I'm trying to get rid of it.

[QUOTE=B-Low]I'd say 9. I'd be lying if I said I NEVER had to clarify something, but for the most part I'm just a very conversational person. My degree is in Public Relations so they pretty much taught us how to communicate most effectively, speak in front of hostile groups of people, think/respond quickly to unexpected questions and comments, keep our composure and talk our way out of any corner. Smile and wink, smile and wink :oldlol:[/QUOTE]
If you can remember, about where would you say you rated prior to taking some of the key courses to get your degree?

I randomly start convos with a lot of strangers for trolling purposes, and I'm pretty fluent with them. I'd give myself a 8-9 there.

With my friends, probably about a 6-7.

With people I know who I don't consider friends, probably 2-3.

[QUOTE=RaininTwos]There really is no justification for what you do. It has nothing to do with caring about writing short stories(the only short story you know is fabricated non-sense you tell about how you "lost" your virginity), it's just that any dude that talks about how hot a girl is will add in details. Details like what she was wearing, a celeb she looks like, how big T and A were,etc..

You tell more about yourself than you do the girl. These are just things that I've noticed over the years.[/QUOTE]
Who says there is no justification?

And I don't remember telling a story about how I lost my virginity. :lol

And you're taking this message board a little too seriously.

Sober: 7
High: 9
Buzzed: 8


When I'm high or buzzed, I just say whatever comes to mind without worrying about my responses.

[QUOTE=L.Kizzle]Who says there is no justification?

And I don't remember telling a story about how I lost my virginity. :lol

And you're taking this message board a little too seriously.[/QUOTE]

If I took this forum seriously I would create shitty threads about women I saw but didn't talk to or artists that everyone knows who aren't relevant in today's musical landscape.

[QUOTE=RaininTwos]Kizzle kill yourself. You can't even make a proper thread, yet you call yourself a master at the art of the conversation.

To be a great talker, you have to share details, I couldn't imagine being friends with you. [b]I would get so tired about asking questions that prompt you to share details that anyone with a brain would use in their story.[/b] I might end up bitch slapping you.

Kizzle:"I saw this girl today and she was so hot"

*end of conversation*[/QUOTE]

:roll: I have a friend like that. He'll tell me something like, "I got into a fight today." Then I have to play 21 questions with him to find out the specifics of the fight, such as 'Did you win?', 'Who did you fight?', 'Where did this happen?', etc.

[QUOTE=RaininTwos]If I took this forum seriously I would create shitty threads about women I saw but didn't talk to or artists that everyone knows who aren't relevant in today's musical landscape.[/QUOTE]
Damn man, why you always in my shit? You wanna be me nigha!