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Old 09-30-2010, 10:55 PM   #1
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I've been talking to this girl for a few months and have gone out with her a handful of times and its been great. Awesome chemistry and we've been really feeling each other. I was talking to her this morning and she dropped the bomb on me that she has a daughter. Im 20 and she's 21 so it was a pretty huge surprise. It doesn't change how I feel but it complicates the situation considerably. Any advice on how I should handle this situation?
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Old 09-30-2010, 11:01 PM   #2
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no big deal, especially if you two are good together.

but, the father could be a hassle, & a touchy subject.
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Old 09-30-2010, 11:02 PM   #3
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Seems to me like she would do anything to get her daughter a father figure. If you're not ready to be a father I would get out before you develop any real feelings towards her.
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Old 09-30-2010, 11:02 PM   #4
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Old 09-30-2010, 11:03 PM   #5
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no big deal, especially if you two are good together.

but, the father could be a hassle, & a touchy subject.
No big deal, they've been dating for a few months and she finally tells him she has a daughter.

There is nothing wrong with having a child, but I think it should have came up one of the many times they've dated.
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Old 09-30-2010, 11:05 PM   #6
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Dexter her man...
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Old 09-30-2010, 11:05 PM   #7
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Meet the kid. If you enjoy being around the child and are willing to take on responsibilty then proceed with the relationship. However, I see major trust issues brewing that it took so long for the girl to tell the whole truth.
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Old 09-30-2010, 11:06 PM   #8
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You need to find out the situation with the father.
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Old 09-30-2010, 11:08 PM   #9
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No big deal, they've been dating for a few months and she finally tells him she has a daughter.

There is nothing wrong with having a child, but I think it should have came up one of the many times they've dated.





yeah, that is weird.
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Old 09-30-2010, 11:21 PM   #10
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It's time to fold your cards and play the next hand
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Old 09-30-2010, 11:39 PM   #11
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I was expecting a thread about abortion and shiit like that.
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Old 09-30-2010, 11:40 PM   #12
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How old is this daughter out of curiosity? This isn't some Maury Povich shit where she had a kid when she was 12 is it?
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Old 10-01-2010, 12:06 AM   #13
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Eh, it's a tricky situation. If it didn't change how you feel about her, then maybe no reason to stop dating her or whatever you all are doing. It's understandable that maybe she wouldn't want to tell you immediately about the baby, because it would make 99% of guys, our age, run like the wind. However, if it has been months, I would be a little careful about her. What other secrets could she have? If it took her this long, how long will it take her to tell you, if ever, something else that may happen?

Also, you are only 20 and in college. Do you really want to involve yourself in such a complicated situation right now? If you like her, you like her, but that could be a tricky situation, especially depending on how the father is and his relationship with her. Do you want a long-term relationship? Do you see yourself being able to have an actual relationship with her, or is it more of a casual dating thing and whatever happens, happens?

Obviously easier said than done, but I just don't know if that is the type of situation you want to burden yourself with right now.
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You're in college dude. Don't really need to be dealing with that stuff.
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Old 10-01-2010, 12:14 AM   #15
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Unless you are seriously feeling this girl to the point where you could say that you could see spending a lot of time with her... then I would bail. Kids are pain in the ass and just get in the way unless they are yours. I would never raise a kid that wasn't my own DNA prior to raising a kid that was my own DNA
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