how do you deal with your Ex living a better life than you?

[chosen_one6]

No it doesn't, people probably just aren't honest to you about it because of how much of a cool guy front you put on. I've talked to a lot of people in honest moments and they've told me they still have feelings about their ex from over 3 years ago. It's really not uncommon at all.

Yea, cool guy front. Sure.

Obviously there are exceptions to this. If your ex moved away, couldn't be with you because of parents, etc. then it's ok to still ponder about them. However, if they cheated on you, were psycho, you lost feelings, etc. then you just simply miss the thought OF a girlfriend, not the actual person.

After 3 years, if you can't move on and find someone else then you have issues. It's really that simple. Of course thoughts of that person cross your mind, but feelings of wanting them back? Those feelings are going to prevent you from being able to truly open up to someone in the future. There's no point in wondering about "what if's" and "coulda, shoulda, woulda" because the reality is that nothing is going to change and the person isn't coming back.

[joe]

Yea, cool guy front. Sure.

Obviously there are exceptions to this. If your ex moved away, couldn't be with you because of parents, etc. then it's ok to still ponder about them. However, if they cheated on you, were psycho, you lost feelings, etc. then you just simply miss the thought OF a girlfriend, not the actual person.

After 3 years, if you can't move on and find someone else then you have issues. It's really that simple. Of course thoughts of that person cross your mind, but feelings of wanting them back? Those feelings are going to prevent you from being able to truly open up to someone in the future. There's no point in wondering about "what if's" and "coulda, shoulda, woulda" because the reality is that nothing is going to change and the person isn't coming back.